After Death Visitation - A Creative Hello from Beyond the Grave!
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Ghetto Chicks and Butterflies
My sister Norma and her son, Omar, had a life long private joke where she called him my 'little chick' even if he was a robust 6 ft. 1 inch tall, 18 year old teenager; he would on occasion sign birthday cards with 'Love your little chick, Omar'.
Little did they know that one day their private joke would reach her from beyond this world. One that brought tears and smiles and confirmation that he is alive and in a better place.
On a warm New York night in July 26, 2005, Omar came home with a severe headache which was thought to be a migraine; but this headache was different; he had seizures for the first time, which led to a trip to the emergency room. While his Mom and best friend, Gerson waited for the emergency room doctors to take care of him, Omar suddenly took his mother's hands and kissed them over and over again and told her he loved her. He then turned to his best friend, kissed his hands and told him he loved him; it is as if a part of him knew he was going to die as these were his last words; he closed his eyes after receiving a sedative and died peacefully. Not the doctors or his mother expected him to die. The cause of death was undiagnosed hydrocephalus; water in the brain. His brain filled with water and literally exploded. His passing as horrific as it sounds, was very quick so he did not suffer.
For those of us who are left behind after a loved one leaves, signs that confirm that they are still alive, but in another place where humans cannot enter or be aware of yet, brings much needed comfort; a balm that soothes an aching heart. While preparing for the funeral arrangements, Omar's Mom asked for a sign of a chick; it could be a card, a picture, a stuffed animal, even a song, as long as it was a clear sign that Omar had heard. I asked for a sign of blue butterflies, this was to be my hello from a nephew who loved to tease me. A few days passed, and I went to the room I was staying in my sister's apt. as I live in Oregon, to check the computer for my emails, and opened an email from my boyfriend; much to my surprise, he had passed on a joke picture from an online friend, of two pirate chicks with red bandannas around their heads poking at a cat with a sword (see photo on top right). I had not mentioned the sign that my sister had asked for or their private joke to my boyfriend or to anyone. What made this sign even more touching was that my sister had a picture of Omar as the wallpaper of her computer, where he has a big smile and is wearing a bandanna; it was a joke picture as he was not into bandannas. The tears wouldn't stop flowing; they were tears of grief and also tears of gratitude that her boy would be so creative even after death; he chose to not settle in sending her only a picture of a small, yellow chick, but of two chicks and with bandannas on. He made sure his mom would recognize his humor. He was in essence saying, 'I love you mom; I heard you, and I am here!'
About two weeks passed afer the funeral, and as we put one foot after the other while in a daze, which I believe is Spirit's way of helping one cope with a traumatic loss, to be in a temporary state of denial, the doorbell in my sister's home rang. It was her new neighbors who had moved in from China and wanted to introduce themselves and their two little girls. They brought her a small gift wrapped box as a gift. When she opened the box, there was was a handcrafted butterfly with blue eyes and blue circles... Omar gave me my sign.
My nephew's passing and his continuing spiritual presence, has started to shift our reality to a sense of awareness that the spirit is eternal and survives death. His physical presence will always be missed, but we are grateful for the confirmations from Spirit.
Check out my other after death communication story and my inspirational website to help with grief - Justabreathaway.com
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Just looked it up in Amazon.com and its by Harold Klemp, and I read the reviews to get a feel for it, and it seems to be the perfect book for my sister, as she is now more interested in spiritual subjects and very open minded. Thanks for the suggestion!
I believe.
I believe that love ones never leave you,
and if you can shrug off centuries of programming,
you can really feel their presence.
I think they exist there and here, somehow.
They are happy, but they only feel sad for us, who are left behind.
Thanks, Violet, I'll send this to two friends who had suffered a loss.
Thanks for passing it on your friends. I hope it brings them some comfort and an opening in their consciousness, that (if they do not yet believe) even if we may miss the physical presence of a loved one, we are always connected, not even death separates us.
i lost my husband 5 months ago in a tragic accident. Though i have not got such coccrete evidences of his being there yet, i do believe that he is around. My son, who is 6 years old says he can feel daddy. I have had dream visitations and I most definitely believe hat our loved ones stay with us forever! your story gives me so much hope. Thanks
Such a poignant and beautiful story. A lovely start to my day as it's around my father's anniversary and I've been wondering about life beyond our 'mortal coil' as well. Be well.
Sangita: Allow me to give you and your son a cyber hug (((((((Sangita))))))))). Yes, your husband is with you but in energy form. I am reminded of a quote I had in my inspirational after death website that said "When a loved one dies, the relationship does not end; it changes form". How true and how comforting!
I am beginning to regret in letting that website which was almost completed expire as I had plenty of stories, poems, flash movies and links to indivuals who can facilate communication between the two worlds. Will email the host and see if my work is still saved on their server.
Wishing you a New Year filled with love and peace and the continuing presence of your husband's Love in both your child's life and yours.
Marie
"Such a poignant and beautiful story. A lovely start to my day as it's around my father's anniversary and I've been wondering about life beyond our 'mortal coil' as well. Be well."
Thank you, Rapidwriter for your words. Much love to you, as you end this year and start a new one.
Marie
Why not start a second edition???This has helped me greatly!!my grandson was recently killed--we were very close and I have many times I feel he is right here with me--we are in a battle right now for his justice and he tells me I'm winning even when I feel like I'm getting kicked.
I feel he plays with other little children who have passed on and he comes visits Paw-paw every once in awhile--thanks I needed this!!
Thank you for stopping by and adding your comments. I am very happy to hear it helped you and that you communicate with him. Wonderful! I am sorry for the loss of your grandson, the loss of a child is the hardest of all Will do another edition, thanks for the suggestion!
this is Omar's mom... thank you little sister for posting this story...there are so much to tell, and many heaven sent messages; but sis is the writer and she'll be posting more of this beautiful ADCs with Omar, communications through Mediums, poetry and more... Blessings to all for 2008! Love/Norma
Oh, what a surprise, Norma! You are an inspiration to me and all of your son's friends! You have so much grace and strength.
Happy New Year big sis, from Oregon to NY! :)
Love/Marie
Life is so short and it is nice to be able to get a sign after someone has passed on and realize that they also gave you a sign before.My dad died from alzheimers in May and it was so hard.I miss him but I know he is in a better place with God.
Death holds no power, it is merely a gateway to another place for our life-energy to exist and thrive.
Your story of Omar proves how powerless death is and how powerful life is. Omar is a powerful life force that transcends our world and yet, as you pointed out, can reach back to it with love.
Very beautiful story. I have a similar experience where my boyfriend who died tragically in a car accident came to me as an apparition....I wrote about it in my hub on a Tribute to Desmond...it confirmed the same thing to me and helped me move on, although never forgotten....I will think of Omar now when I see butterflies as well!!!!
To MoralsEthics: "My dad died from alzheimers in May and it was so hard.I miss him but I know he is in a better place with God.">>>
Thank you for stopping by and may you find comfort in having the faith your Dad is in a better place.
To: CJSpirit: "Your story of Omar proves how powerless death is and how powerful life is. Omar is a powerful life force that transcends our world and yet, as you pointed out, can reach back to it with love">>>
Passed on your comments to my sister (Omar's Mom) and she printed it to read your entire message over and over again. Thank you!
To: djtphn1: "I wrote about it in my hub on a Tribute to Desmond...it confirmed the same thing to me and helped me move on, although never forgotten....I will think of Omar now when I see butterflies as well!!!!>>>
Visited your hub and your story made my eyes misty! Beautiful, beautiful story! :)
Beautiful Expression! BRAVO! Si es posible anotar musica eres mi angel?
Note blue butterflies messengers, two little girls (children!) Comprende
por favor?
Carinos, Jesse
Jesse: What a surprise to see you here! I forgot about the poem/song I wrote, "I am Your Angel", don't know yet how to add this type of links to a hub, but will check it out later. Thanks for your comments and reminder.
Your Spanish is good. :)
Love,Marie
That was really touching. I think I've recived signs from the deceased. They made me feel much better. Thanks for the uplifting hub!
Wonderful Hub...Thanks for sharing!
"I Am Your Angel" ~ had the thought that if you put the lyrics here ~ don't ask me why other than that they are lovely and frost the cake. Small font?? Dunno' ~ not schooled in this Forum. Matters not. Just passing on the thought ~ you are copyrighted, so ~ huh? Your choice, of course.
Ever, Jesse tu amiga
What a lovely story. I read somewhere that a large percentage of people who lose someone close to them to death receive a visitation or sign shortly afterward. I think that is so comforting. Thanks, Violetsun.
Pgrundy: Thanks for stopping by with your comments. And, Omar keeps giving his Mom signs, more so than with me, as he knows my sister still misses him very much, and this give her a sense of connection.
All I can say is WOW! First reading a powerful but sensitive hub and then to wander through all the comments. There is a beautiful sense of sharing here. Wonderful to see and feel!
Violet - you are inspiring!
Smiles and Light
I appreciate you sharing this hub with us.
Funny thing...as I was reading this, something "Awesome" came to me...if I may, I will share. It is not only in death that these "small wonders" come to us from a loved one, but in life as well. This morining as my alarm clock went off, there were a few seconds of an ending to one song, and then as my eyes opened, there came the new song, one I had shared with someone not too long ago. As amazing as this is, this person was on my mind, and very much alive. So, what I am saying here, taking the long way around, is that there are comforts daily from those we love and care for, who love and care for us, whether living or have passed. It is just a matter of "tuning in".
Thanks for Sharing!
Have a Dynamic Day!
AuraGem: Thanks for stopping by, and yes, I so enjoy the readers that have stopped by with their comments and their sharing. Its appreciated. :)
Yippity: Had little chills when I read your words. The "signs" between loved ones and friends, is not only for when a person passes away, we can connect to those who are still alive because we are all connected in spirit (just repeating your train of thought) . Thanks for the reminder!
Nice Hub, its like a movie.
These arelovely sentiments and a good story to pass on to others that have lost someone. We can have comfort, Thanks for the Hub!
eugie17: Nice visuals: a hub that is like a movie. I love it! Thanks for your comments.
Patty: When Omar passed away, my sister and I found much comfort in reading the stories of others who experienced communication with their loved ones who also had passed on. It is for this reason, I often share. Thanks for stopping by.
I read this story today! This is wonderful reality that such experiences provide us surity of eternal life and soul's presence!
Thank you Violetsun!
Thank you healwell for your comments. Just read yours today.
You are an awesome lady and writer! I love true stories from the heart! I, myself, love writing about my experiences with spirits because they come from my heart and not my head, as you can tell by the scattered way I write. lol! I love Hubpages too because everyone seems like expressing themselves on here is comfortable, no harsh judgements on spelling or writing and it's a nice place to just get it out or get help from friends! Take care and nice to meet you!
Thank you for your kind words and reading. Nice to meet someone with similar interests in spiritual topics. Have become your fan!
A touching and thought provoking hub. Thank you
Thank you, Ram!
Lovely! (and SO true!) I lost my Mom in July 2008...I still feel her prescence everyday..I KNOW shes here. She sends signs through music. (Ever heard Cindy Campo...she's got a beautiful voice and writes & sings what she calls "soul songs"..she's on the web) My Dad passed away in July 1991 and since the day of his burial, he sends signs through Monarch butterflies...I have had SO many experiences with Monarchs landing on my head or shoulder, or fluttering around me in circles. I am a firm BELIEVER!!
Hi, Miracles: It's so comforting and reasruring to get messages from our loved ones, as for me it has helped to feel there is a contuinity to life- sorry about your Mom, but wonderful to read she communicates with you, as well as your Dad.
Thank for reading and sharing!
Just wonderful..this really touched me.
jesusmyjoy: Thanks for reading and adding your comments, its appreciated.
coolbreeze 4 years ago
Nice story Thank you Welcome to hubpages. I like the book past lifes, dreams and soul travel, Omar is a great soul